Planning a Barbecue Is Like Planning Your Estate

Planning a Barbecue Is Like Planning Your Estate

For many, Memorial Day weekend signals the beginning of summer and enjoying warm-weather
activities, including backyard barbecues with friends and family. Although a cookout may be an
informal affair, planning is crucial to its success. This is true for estate planning, too. Just as
preparations are necessary for a successful cookout, a little planning goes a long way to
prevent a poorly designed estate plan (or no estate plan at all!) from leaving you and your loved
ones in a pickle.

Step 1. The menu: what do you own?

When you plan a barbecue, one of the first steps is to decide what foods to include on the
menu. If you buy the burgers and hot dogs but forget the buns, the menu will lack an essential
component and the party may be ruined. Likewise, in creating your estate plan, one of the first
steps in making sure your goals are achieved is to consider what you own. If you omit important
property or accounts from your estate plan, it is unlikely to fully achieve your goals.

As your estate planning attorneys, we will provide you with a checklist that will help you think
through what you own so that none of your property is inadvertently left out of your plan. For
example, you will be asked to list real and personal property and all of your bank and other
accounts, and to note whether you own them individually or jointly with your spouse or another
person. Filling out this inventory will help you evaluate everything you own holistically and
determine how you want to distribute it when you pass away or if you would like to make gifts
during your lifetime. It will also enable us to suggest estate planning strategies that will provide
for your loved ones and achieve any other goals you may have, such as minimizing taxes.

Step 2. The invitations: who are your beneficiaries?

The next step in planning your cookout is determining who you would like to invite. Likewise,
when creating your estate plan, you will need to decide who you would like to be your
beneficiaries—the individuals who will inherit your money and property when you pass away or
that you would like to benefit during your lifetime. You may think that this is simple and will not
require much thought, but there is more involved in creating this list than you may think. Your
beneficiaries may include your spouse or partner, children and stepchildren, grandchildren,
other relatives, friends, charitable organizations, and your church.

In determining your beneficiaries, you may want to consider issues such as whether all of your
children need an inheritance or if one of them, such as a disabled child, has a greater need. If a
child is addicted to drugs, you may decide not to provide them an inheritance and instead create
a trust designed to prevent the child from spending their inheritance to support their habit. We
can help you consider who you would like to receive your money and property and discuss the
best strategies to provide for your beneficiaries while achieving other goals, such as minimizing
gift and estate taxes or providing grandchildren incentives to attend college or start a new

Step 3. Serving sizes: how much does each person get?

When you plan a barbecue, you need to calculate how much food each person will consume.
Your six-foot-tall adult son will likely need a bigger portion than your two-year-old
granddaughter. In estate planning, your first instinct may be to provide an equal share of your
money and property to each of your beneficiaries. However, as is the case with a cookout, you
may want to give some beneficiaries a bigger share and others a smaller share. As mentioned
previously, if you have a child with special needs who is unable to support themselves, you may
want to create a trust to provide for them and give smaller inheritances to your other children
who are financially independent.

Depending on what you own, it may also be important to give certain accounts or property to
one beneficiary and other accounts or property to other beneficiaries. For example, if you have
a family home, real estate, or business in which only one child is actively engaged, splitting
ownership among multiple siblings may set them up for disagreements and strain or destroy
relationships. To avoid family fights after you pass away, consider giving hard-to-divide property
to one child and money (in the form of accounts or insurance proceeds) to others. Alternatively,
you could instruct in your will or trust that the hard-to-divide property be sold and the proceeds
divided equally among the siblings.

Step 4. Extra touches: give letters and personal property to loved ones.

Just as you add extra touches such as umbrellas, tablecloths, or strings of lights to make your
barbecue a special occasion, you can include special documents in your estate plan, such as
letters to loved ones to articulate your feelings for them and leave a final blessing when you
pass away. A will or trust document may otherwise seem impersonal, even if you intend for the
gifts you make in them to be a demonstration of your love for your family. Leaving a letter to
your loved ones expressing your feelings and hopes for them may be one of the most precious
gifts you can give.

You may also use a special memorandum, typically called a personal property memorandum, to
indicate who you would like to receive your tangible personal property such as heirlooms,
collectibles, or items having sentimental value (not real property or intangible property such as
accounts). You can use this memorandum to express that particular items be given to certain
family members or to make sure that everyone receives something meaningful to them. A
personal property memorandum that clearly describes each item listed and who should receive
it can also help avoid fights among family members over significant items. To make sure the
personal property memorandum is effective and legally enforceable, reference it in your will or
trust and include any formalities specified by state law.

Lettuce help you plan: call us so we can ketchup!

You may be worried that you will be grilled when you come in for an estate planning
consultation, but we promise that you will be glad you came. Anyone who has outgrown their
salad days knows that failure to plan leads to less-than-optimal outcomes. Call us today to spill
the beans about your estate planning goals, and we will help you create an estate plan that will
satisfy your craving to provide a secure future for yourself and your family.

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